The Compassion Speak Blog by Sean Allison

A wiseman once reminded me to focus my attention on one activity at a time. He said when you breathe in, it is it’s own motion. When you breathe out is a uniquely different expression.

Intuition works the same way. Receiving information is a different practice than sending information. At the school where I teach, we work with the students until they can notice the differences between the Reading Space (Inflow) and the Healing Space (outflow).

In an exchange, if I am thinking of my next response before the other party is finished talking, I am not listening. When I fully take in what is being said from that place of silence, I can fully be present and observe. (Inflow) This allows me to notice and appreciate more of what is being said. If I am silent I will begin to notice subtle nuances. I will understand more and my intuition can contribute (outflow). The information can stand on its own without personality differences or a tally of who did what to whom.

In the silence, I can hold the opposite position in harmony with what is being said.

In the Bible God is quoted as saying, “I will remove your error as far as the east is from the west.” In other words the silence can expand the context until it dissolves the issue. We have the privilege to do this for each other. Opposites are always coming together- like yin and yang. What is separate is part of the whole.

From this place of silence, someone can really feel heard and seen, valued! This is a state of embrace, where I can gather information to consider. The silence changes how I consider as well as my options, because I am waiting for events to ripen. The silence allows for the dominos to be sequenced in a personal way where you can be a part of an efficient chain of events. This is also known as being in the flow of the Holy Spirit, or an expansive Universe with a personal interest in you.

Still all that can occur becomes clear from within the void, the darkness, What we are calling Neutrality. In this Silence are all things possible.

Most of my life, the interaction with my father was filled with trying to be seen and valued by each other. We blamed each other with our selfish pain of disrespect. A lot of our wonderful moments together were hinged by this vacuum of insecurity.

One day I made a decision that I wanted a different relationship with him and I needed to change my approach. I started praying for him, so I could experience and recognize his value from other peoples perspective. Hoping I may learn from other’s, so I could give to him. This space of prayer was a pregnant silence that grew a fertile space between us.

I stopped trying to fix him. I started to experience him. See him and fall in love with who he was. In large part from how others saw him, received him. I learned how he could receive respect and created opportunities to love him in a way my father could receive.

This required me taking care of Sean first, Being still and noticing what was valuable to me. My longing to feel his love was to a larger degree Sean yearning for his own love. By being what I was looking for I Experienced a miracle. What I call the experience of giving and receiving in one exchange. Grace and Mercy comes from that Still and Silent space. I know when I arrive because I become OK… Safe, Secure and filled with permission to just BE STILL AND KNOW, not define…

When I recognize I am in it, then I can Become it and express it. What came from the darkness of the void Is now potent and palpable. My father could feel the difference. He never knew of all those years of prayer. I changed me and I fell in love with him.

The last 3 years of my father and my interaction we played in this space. I listen to the information, Watch the body language, Ask clarifying questions then delighted in finding the value of his position. I Learned to love from within the resonance of Silence